How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not to - Janis A. Spring

\n \nUntil now, we have been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Spring, a gifted therapist and the award-winning author of After the Affair, proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives--without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for genuine forgiveness--one that asks as much of the offender as it does of us.\n \nThis bold and healing book offers step-by-step, concrete instructions that help us make peace with others and with ourselves, while answering such crucial questions as these: \n \n- How do I forgive someone who is unremorseful or dead? \n- When is forgiveness cheap? \n- What is wrong with refusing to forgive? \n- How can the offender earn forgiveness? \n- How do we forgive ourselves for hurting another human being?